Eye on the Prize (#explicit)

Content Advisory: This article contains reference to sexual content and adult themes including, foreplay, stimulation, and masturbation. 

Let's face it, I'm a huge fan of anatomy. The human body really should be appreciated. We all have something we like, maybe it's a nice ass, or 8-pack abs, or biceps. But how often do we really think of a cock as something to drool over. Of course, our men sure think they've got something wonderful tucked away in their jeans. So, why not let them show it off?

Not all are open with the idea I'm about to suggest, and the way to get them to agree is not likely by explaining that we all know they all do it at some point in time -- it's no huge secret even though many of them still think it is. But allowing someone that is personally close to you can be a large push for trust. Be sure to not take your man's consent to try this lightly. If he's never done it before, this is a big step for him. Appreciate it.

A side thought to it: You can learn how he likes to be touched and when it's in your hand, put that knowledge to use. Pay attention, does he pull up over the tip? Or does he stay lower? Little notes can make a big difference. You may think you've got your man and his needs perfected, but there's always something new to learn.

This may be something that you'll need to take baby steps in. If you're shy or if he is, it may need to be a gradual thing. Remember, sex rarely has to be all or nothing and there's no harm in easing your way into things. If you're both comfortable, you'll both enjoy it.

Make sure that he's comfortable and that he has your undivided attention. Be prepared that he may watch you rather than what he's doing to himself. He'll get turned on by seeing you get turned on. Besides, if he is new at this, it'll help him focus on something else. Be sure to watch the entirety of whatever show he's willing to give you. And, before making eye contact, which can make the experience even more erotic, be sure he's OK with it. Remember, you have plenty of time to do all aspects of it. It's not a race.

Eventually, maybe you can convince him to come for you. Talk about a HOT and I mean H-O-T experience---muscles tense everywhere. He may be shocked at how much your desire for him increases just from watching him get off.

My initial idea is always to wait on joining in. Get comfortable watching him and let him get comfortable allowing you to watch. Then maybe expand. I still think it's absolutely great on its own. However, some options are: allowing him to wrap your hand around him and his hand over yours to guide you, oral sex from you while he works his hand up and down his shaft, play with his balls (carefully -- some men don't like it, some love it, some like it a certain way -- if you're unsure, this is a great time to ask him to show you).

What always comes up with this is watching each other masturbate. While not a bad idea, it does take the focus off the individual and, at times, it can be like you're each alone in the room and just in your own world of pleasure. The idea of this is to watch your partner, get a feel for what they feel and their trust in just allowing you to watch. So, on doing it together--I say no. Let your man have the spotlight on this one. You'll be glad that you did.

A final thought, even if your man says no, it doesn't mean you can revisit the idea and it's not that they're being closed-minded. Comfort and respect are always first. Now, see if you can try something new.

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